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TUWOG: Andrew ‘HKB FiNN’ Ward

‘…most middle class people are taught from birth how to manage: finance, emotions, family, other people, expectations…it’s just like your whole life is just…you are just learning management skills all the time - HKB FiNN

HKB FiNN gave #TUWOG more than was bargained for and as FayFay will attest to, cutting this down was hard -so many juicy bits! Trying to summarise it all, even harder so, let the timestamp below be your guide 🤓

Timestamp

  • Origin story (05:38)

  • The black barrier (11:58) 

  • Using the powers of mimicry to win friends (20:20)

  • Subcultures in England (21:28)

  • A nomad’s guide to emotional investments into friendship (24:58)

  • Self editing to be present for others (37:45)

  • The one about the city you live in, the energy it demands of you and the relationships you have with people as a result (41:09) 

  • Opportunity comes but once? (42:32) 

  • And what does it mean to be black and undefined? (45:27)

  • Taking the scenic route brings its own opportunity for reclamation (48:11)

  • Forgiving your aggressors is its own type of healing (55:33)

  • You are more than the things that happened to you (58:07)

  • Negotiating with the erasure of self due to trauma (1:00:32)

  • Damage versus damage - are you addicted to pain? (01:03:38)

  • People don’t kill love, shotguns kill love (01:06:38)

  • Sooooo...do you want liver with that? (01:10:47)

  • On generational (financial) intelligence (01:36:00) 

  • Effort + time + quality = success? (01:45:27) 

  • Embarrassing moment in four words (01:52:14)

  • The Unsullied Book Club (01:53:45)

The Unsullied Book Club

HKB FiNN recommends:

  1. The Alchemist’ by Paolo Cohelo. Available on: Amazon and Apple.

  2. The Art of War’ by Sun Tzu. Available on: Amazon and Apple.

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